HOW YOU SAY IT MATTERS!

We always say that attitude is everything. Well, this may seem to be just a mere and tired statement that has been there for a very long time.

            In this case however, I am discussing a person’s character and presentation.  Before I down on it, kindly answer this question; how many times have you been told that it’s important to be presentable for that job interview. If you argue that you’ve never gone for an interview, you can be sure that you’ve seen “presentable, good-looking & outspoken” as a requirement in many job advertisements.

            This surprisingly does have to do with very little of your physical looks if any and I will argue it out. People, by the way we are created are very judgmental and indeed it’s human nature. A person and especially ladies can like you or hate you FOREVER in the first time of seeing you.

            First, the way you talk really matters a lot to many people. This does not actually mean you stammering or something like that, no, but it’s actually how mannerly you are when speaking. Now here, etiquette is not an option, you must be courteous and welcoming. Do you care about what brought them there and the way you can assist them? Do you actually mean it when you say ‘it is a pleasure?’ Are you full of expectations from them?.... Have you ever wondered why many interviewers opt the oral interview than any other kind of interviews?  This is because they want to watch you & ‘see’ you right from the time you knock the door till the time you leave it.

            Second, the way you conduct yourself will really attract someone of piss them off. Here, I’m talking of ‘these small things’ that we tend to ignore most of the time. For example, if a visitor comes in the office and there are no more chairs, are you ready to sacrifice and give them the seat whether they will accept it or not?This will always show them that despite the ‘business’, you are also human.

Thirdly, and this is a golden rule; don’t tell what you were not asked, period. When you keep telling more about things you are not asked about, they tend to think either you are bragging or you want to impress them. In whatever the circumstances, always try to be precise, straight to the point and with the simplest language of course.

Fourthly, keep smiling! Don’t have a very sticky or stone  face to people. Show them that at least you are enjoying the moment, I mean, even if you are not….this will save you quite a lot. A smiley face is a promising face that at least you appreciate and it also shows you are enthusiastic.

Fifthly, never say ‘I DON’T KNOW!’. This is one of the worst mistake people do. Take for example a Journalist going for an interview and the employer asks the of the latest regional news and all they have to say is the don’t know. For your information, this completely puts them off. To avoid this, you can pretend to be thinking of it like “oh…he is called…why is this name disappearing..uummh let me remember” such kind of a thing. This actually displays confidence and actually they can at least trust you.

Another thing, be outspoken. Express yourself well but remember the third rule, don’t answer what you’ve not been asked.

Lastly, always learn to mind other people. It is wrong when you put your interests first. Think of the other people’s rights and what they deserve. Remember, they may not be outspoken as you are and your decisions may end up oppressing them. Hoping we will make better people and conversations in the world.